My apologies to my co worker if I have offended her
Ok so I have this problem. I come from the old school that says when a woman looks nice she deserves a compliment.
Well now it seems that I can get in all kinds of trouble for that. I do not always stop to think about what is going to come out of my mouth before I say it. Today I find myself confronted with the problem of not being able to compliment a lady on how she looks, but also I must keep in mind if that lady also happens to be a minority. Today I saw a co worker of mine that happens to be a young attractive African-American lady all dress in black. Now this was quit striking. She is very tall, black hair, dark skinned even for her race, and dressed completely in black.
I have always thought that she is attractive however this combination was really startling. I made a compliment to her about being all dressed up in black, and then like a dumb ass I added she could really hide in the shadows today. That was really stupid of me. I did not mean anything derogatory towards her or her race. I must admit that part of that thought that I managed to not say went on to say and you will have to smile so we could find you. I really know how to stick my foot in my mouth.
I will be honest when saying that race was not the issue in this jasmin live statement. It just seemed to fit the circumstance, as well as probably from old thoughts in the back of my head. I am sure glad I did not finish that sentence, as I am sure she would have been offended. I did not intend to do anything but to pay her a compliment. So here is the problem. How does a white, middle aged male act these days. I can not stop the obvious attraction to someone that dresses to be attractive. Now that is not saying that I look at this woman in any way accept as a co worker. I do not have any desires for her whatsoever. This is not the only situation that I have found myself in. I compliment everyone that I think is doing their best to present a pleasing look. There is a lady that well lets say is just a bit on the larger size, but she sure does make that look nice. I have complimented her on several occasions. Now on this next one don’t everyone get their socks all bunched up, but, I have a good friend who happens to be a gay man. He is a very good looking young man and to be honest with you, I would count him among my friends. Even if I do not approve of his chosen life style, I do approve of the person. He has really lost some weight lately, and I have complimented him on how he looks. I guess I take notice of how others appear probably too much. It is too bad that total fear can grip me in the pit of my stomach as to what the consequences might be for having paid a compliment to someone.
I must say that it is really not a good feeling to be concerned of possibly loosing my job over such a thing. There is one person in my organization that I do not speak to at all if at all possible.
She is the one that takes every comment the wrong way. Question, If a woman does not want a man to find her attractive, why dress attractively? I have posted in the past about the issue of all the women running around with hardly any clothing on. Do they have any idea the message this sends out? You know if you advertise with sex don’t be surprised if you catch someone that only wants sex. I guess I am just tired of trying to play the politically correct game, as I do it so poorly. No actually I really do not give a shit. Only when it comes to possibly threatening my job, and or someone getting offended because they think I should not have said something do I really get concerned. You know if it was two guys, you could say almost anything. Hey you look like shit. You may get the replay to go eat shit, but in the end life goes on. This is not the case when gender or race is considered. I do not intend to offend, but some times it just comes naturally. My apologies to my co worker if I have offended her.
Moving Day
Mom and Dan are moving to their new place today. They've hired a moving company who is sending six men with two trucks. Let me tell you that those six men will be earning their money today. They have lots and lots AND lots of stuff to move. The girls have a half day today so we can shoot over to the new place around 2pm. Hopefully, the cable guy will show up between his scheduled times of 3pm-5pm. Then, we get to rocket back home so I can cook dinner and run out to a GS service unit meeting.
I've got to work on some PTA family fun night paperwork so I can't stay and chat with you. To all the wonderful people who ordered cookies from Moira, they will be coming soon. I promise!
Another trip hunting
Nov 19
Gravy and I left Dayton tonight at 4:40 pm and headed to camp again. It is almost 8 pm and I am lying on my cot in my tent with this laptop in my lap and Gravy is running around somewhere outside. It is warm, but the temperature is supposed to drop into the 30’s tonight. It should be good hunting tomorrow. I think that Scott is going to be here in the morning, and John may show up on Saturday. This weekend id the youth hunt and we have three people that are going to participate in that. Tonight is totally black as there is no moon, and the night sky is full of stars. Good to be in camp again, browsing Chaturbaterooms.com just me and the o’l hound dog. She finally came in to get something to eat, and I think it is time to turn all the lights out and go outside and look at the sky one more time before I go to sleep.
Nov 20
Today started out all wrong. The quad would not start. I tried everything I could think of to make it work. I was not getting any spark to the spark plug. I finally loaded it up on the trailer and took it into town to the Honda shop. They jumped right on it for me. Great service. The mechanic said he had spark. So he put the plug back in and it fired right up. He wanted to know if I was going to be mad if he told me what was wrong. I said of course not. He told me that I had turned off the kill switch. Damn, double damn. Oh well. Breakfast of grease at Grannies, and then we head back to camp. I fixed Scotts GPS for him by uploading the map and trails for him from my laptop. Then I went hunting. Oh yea, on my way into town, I saw 2 bucks and a doe out by the gate. So I get into my tree stand and kick back and relax. It is 2:30 and nothing is likely to happen until almost dark at 5:30. I really enjoy just sitting here watching the woods. I have several squirrels in the area to watch. About 5 pm, just about the best time to hunt, I hear a racket on the road and there is one truck towing a second truck with a care following it. They stop. Where do they stop? Well of course it would be exactly where I am hopping the deer are going to cross the road and come to me. After about 15 minutes of slamming car doors and yelling at each other, they finally leave. Right at dark I look over into the field on the other side of the fence, and there are two deer and they are coming my way. No wait there are 3 no 5 no 8 in all. It is just too dark to tell what they are. I decide to get out of my stand and head to camp. When I came out of the bottom behind the food plot they was a little fork horn buck standing there eating. He did not pay any attention to me at all. I road my quad right over to that deer. I got to within about 3 feet away before he decided to leave. So let’s see that’s 3 plus 8 plus 1, which would be a dozen deer in one day. No shots fired, but I got to see them. Bed time for me and Gravy.
Nov 21
I called my mother first thing this morning to wish her a happy birthday. There are some things that are more important than deer hunting. However they are few. I left before sun up on the quad. When I got to the food plot at the “Y” that little fork horn buck that everyone has been seeing on www.jasminelive.online was there. When I made my turn to go north I ran into two does headed for the north food plot. I hunted my stand north on route 50. I did not see anything this morning. I had already decided to pull my stand out and go somewhere else. Gravy and I went into town to pick up a few things, like sugar for my coffee and some new tail lights for the trailer, as I smashed one the other day. When I got back, I decided to take a short nap as it is in the high 0’s. It is too hot to hunt. Around 1 pm I headed to the new spot I wanted to try. We keep seeing 2 bucks and some does on our way out in the mornings. John has been hunting on the west side of that area. I decided to try the east side. I saw two does off in the distance but no shots. I will try again in the morning. Gravy and I just finished a meal of venison burgers on the grill. Damn that’s good eating stuff. Well with full bellies these two old dogs are going to bed.
Nov 22
I got into the woods early today. As I sit here in my tree stand, right at first light there are three deer coming out of the area that they disappeared into last night. What kind of rabbit hole is that those deer disappear into? They go in then the come out the next day. I am going to have to take a look at that hill top. Then there is a buck that comes out of the same hole. I decide around 9 am to go up the hill to take look around. I no sooner get out of my little valley than I jump another doe. Se runs straight up the hill and into that hole. I walk up the hill to discover that there are many dozer paths created during the logging of this area last year. I follow it to the top. What do I find there? There is another dozer path going off the back side of this hill and into a wooded valley. Ambush time. I think this would be a great place to lay in wait for those deer next week when I return. I tried to find where those deer crossed the bottom of the hill. I think I know where that is, and again it will make a great place for a ground blind next week. I packed up and left for home around noon.
Nov 23
It is time to clean everything up and pack it back up again. I leave again next Wednesday night for camp. All of Thanksgiving and the following week I have off. The weekend will still be for bow hunting, but on Monday it will be gun season. I sure hope I can put something in the freezer this year.
Good-bye
Just now, I read some news that just stopped me cold. Rob, from Gut Rumbles, passed away this morning. I remember when I first started blogging, I was invited to participate in a group blog featuring a little known Rob, Joanie as well as a few others. The rest, well, is history. Rob was such a tortured soul. At times, I wished I lived nearby in order to check on him or cook him a meal. Other times, I was horrified at his apparent behavior to people I considered close to me. Then, he would write a post with what he called "Random Linkage" and I'd find this written about me:
This woman has been on my blogroll since I first had one. She is so got-dam sweet that she makes my belly hurt sometimes, but I've got a theory about "sweet" wimmen like that. Get 'em alone. In the dark. All by themselves, except for YOU. Those kind of sweetnesses have an inner slut tigress in them that is AWESOME!!!
Now, he's gone.
I wrote a comment in the last entry of his blog, the one his daughter wrote, expressing my sympathy. Then, I cried.
I will miss you Rob.
I love the summer
Well, workmen did arrive yesterday afternoon and finished pouring cement for the addition. They also backfilled in some of mountains of dirt. Moira and I took a bunch of pictures. Mom stopped down yesterday for lunch and a swim. Unfortunately, the work crew showed up right at lunchtime and went right to work so there was no swimming. As Mom was getting ready to leave, the crew finished up for the day and left!
My friend stopped by to drop off Moira's mask. She and her two girls ended up staying for a few hours. She left to pick up her son and bathing suits for her girls and came back. All five kids went swimming and jumped on the trampoline. Pool, trampoline, pool, trampoline, you get the idea. I grilled up some hot dogs and burgers and we all had a very nice time. My friend and her crew left around 8pm.
Olivia has gymnastics today and I will be interviewing a Girl Scout assistant. Turns out, HER daughter also goes to gymnastics at the same time, just in a different class. Bonus! Plus, I have ANOTHER GS interview tonight at 7pm. Busy busy busy!
Well, I'm off to drag these lazy girls out of bed. Wish me luck.